A Letter To the Past, Present, and Future Me

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Last year I wrote a letter to myself.  It was personal, something I did for me, to me, from me.  It is full of truths I have always known deep down inside me, but that I often forget and need to be reminded of.  In the first class I taught during my yoga teacher training, I felt inspired to share this letter during savasana.  I had fallen in love with every being laying down in my class, and saw them each as a mirror of myself.  I understood in that moment that this letter was not solely for me, but for everyone.  So I’ve decided to continue to share it:

 

Dear you,

The most important choice you will ever make is whether you live in a hostile world, or a loving world. Please choose wisely, as this decision will be the mirror of your life. You will also be faced with a choice of which pain you decide to experience: the pain of staying the same, or the pain of growth. At this crossroad of life, whatever path you choose, choose the one that leads toward a place where you can be you, free of conditions.

It is likely that you will surrender to a lot of things that are not worthy of you. I wish that instead you would surrender to your radiance, your integrity, and your beautiful human grace. In these moments of unworthy surrender, the Universe may bring you to your knees, not to punish you, but to help you rise in the right direction. Know that your fears and insecurities are only as real as you believe them to be. The Truth is that you are unlimited and free, and free spirits have to soar. Not everyone will understand this about you, but embrace it anyway. Be uninhibited; belong to no one but the Earth. You are a child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars, so keep close to Nature’s heart, and let it wash your spirit clean. Let your soul be touched the soul of the Universe.

People will try to give you rules, but live by only one: be your wild, courageous, brilliant self every single day, no matter what. May you never fail to express all the wild and wondrous things you are. Be gentle with yourself as you ride the energy of your own unique spirit. Regardless of how much it might hurt right now, I promise that this too is a blessing. Thank the Universe everyday for everything It has given you, and everything It has taken away, for both are absolutely perfect. Whatever comes, let it come. Whatever stays, let it stay. Whatever goes, let it go. Life is meant to be lived, not controlled.

You will be adored by many, but you will only truly connect with very few. That is O.K. It is true that some people in our world really are magic. But know that just because someone seems perfect, does not mean that they are meant to connect with your highest self. You can experience people, and allow them to experience you, and let that be enough. There is so much to gain from just that alone. But more importantly, when your path does cross with the people who manage to carve a place into your heart, make that place theirs. Fly their flag, speak their language, and honor them with festive parades forever. Choose to surround yourself with happy people that believe in magic and magical people that believe in happy. It is always a choice.

The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship you will ever experience, however, is the one you have with yourself. This is because other people do not have to change in order for you to be happy. You can learn to be your own healer. In fact, I encourage you to re-examine all that you have been told, and dismiss that which insults your soul. You have the right at any time to break free of all that no longer serves you, so that you may live your Truth. I promise you that if you are not laughing, it is not worth it.

I hope that you will live free, have experiences, and get out in the world and let stories happen to you. Your wanderlust spirit will drive you to travel often, so wherever you go, arrive there prepared to be yourself and only yourself. Your health, sense of self, and talents are your greatest assets – cherish them and bring them with you. And remember that the only things worth staying close to are those that make you feel alive.

This includes the relationships in your life. Love in such a way that the person you love feels free, and accept nothing less than that in return. Never run after someone else. Choose you. Pick you. Chase you. Do not cater to the needs of others if you must sacrifice your souls infinite nature in the process. If you accomplish only one thing in this life, let it be to shine your own unique light. Glow. Under no circumstances should you dim your light because it is shining in someone else’s eyes. This light is the essence of your being. Honor it always. Nothing – no words, hatred, prejudice, abuse – nothing hurts more than losing the rawness and authenticity of your spirit. Know that those who serve your highest purpose want to stand in the rays of your radiance. This inner light will not only guide you, but will also brighten the world.

The sun, moon, stars, water, air, laughter, words, love… you do not have to purchase these with money. Fall in love with less things in life, and more of life itself. Flowers in your hair will always make you feel more beautiful than diamonds around your neck. You are going to make everything around you magical – that will be your life. So live exactly as you wish to live. Kiss the Earth with your bare feet, and know that precious miracles and moments of bliss await you. Be where you are.

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Love,

Me

Anything = Everything

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Do you speak to me like you speak to God?

Let the authenticity of your spirit match the honesty in your relationships.

Let the integrity of your yoga practice mirror the passion in your love making.

Let the truth of your words honor the rawness of your thoughts.

Let the joy in your laughter be loyal to the freedom of your dance.

Let the commitment to feed your children be in accordance with the vigor to take care of yourself.

Let the picture of your life be painted by the brush of your Soul.

Let all that you do in this Universe reflect the core of your being.

How you do anything is how you do everything.

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne

Create your Space

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We are each responsible for the vibrational energy that we hold in our space.  We are the sole creators of our lives.  What if you chose to stand in your truth, regardless of the possible repercussions?  What if you chose to be playful with yourself and others, rather than worry about how people perceive you?  What if you loved fully, with every bit and piece of your being, instead of hiding behind a wall of protection?  What if you chose to step into a space of higher consciousness, and let go of the belief that money, appearance, or status are of any value to ones worth?  What if you trusted that there exists a reason for having this human experience, and as a result enjoyed life’s simple pleasures a little bit more?  What if you decided to be genuinely happy for the success and joy of others, because you understood that there is no such thing as saturation?  What if you gave thanks and felt gratitude for every single thing you have, everything you don’t have, all that you no longer have, and everything you will have someday, because you surrendered to the knowingness that it is all absolutely perfect as is?  What if you were just YOU, exactly as you are right now, and recognized that those who are meant to connect with your rawness simply will?  What if you let your light shine at all times, no matter how many people wish or try to dim it?  What if you chose to live this life as your highest self — as an integrated being — living as ALL of you, ALL of the time, paying no matter to if there are some people who just don’t get you?  What if you created your world, instead of living in someone else’s?  What if?  Why not?

What unique Universe are you creating in your space?

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne

Who runs the relationship?

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Someone once said to me, “whoever cares the least runs the relationship.”  Understandable point of view, yet here is my response, and it applies not only to romantic relationships, but all relationships:

First of all, if you are in a relationship in which you have to use the word “run” to describe its nature, by all means RUN away.  If this statement rings true on either side, then you are not in the right relationship — one that connects you with your highest self.  Love is fluid, meaning in fluctuates.  One day one person will feel that they are more invested, and the next day the opposite may be true.  However, I say God forbid you choose to fill your life with people whom you can limit your care for.  Beliefs such as this one set your relationship up for failure, and beg for a life lived in fractions.  If you have truly fallen in love with yourself before you fell in love with your partner, then you would not accept a relationship in which you have to hold back the full extent of love you have to offer, or which you are shorted of the love your partner is capable of giving.  True love is limitless, unbounded, timeless… it does not exist within a perimiter of which someone can monitor.

So if you are with someone who either consciously or subconsciously has this perspective — ask yourself why you would allow yourself to be with a person who is capable of confining their love for you.  And if you ARE the someone who either consciously or subconsciously believes this way — my wish is that you open yourself up to finding someone who you simply cannot contain your love for.

The one who cares less is settling for a love equally as unfulfilling as the one who cares more.

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne

Kindness

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A few months ago while I was in college I befriended this super quirky kid in one of my classes.  Everyday when I would get to class he would say hi to me with so much excitment, for no reason at all.  One day I decided to give a little more than usual, so I said “Hi!” before he even had the chance to greet me first, and I sat down next to him and asked him how his day was going.  Weeks past and he became my buddy in that class.  Each day when I walked in the door I saw his eyes locked on the entrance anticipating my arrival with excitment to see his friend.  Typically, I would walk over to my seat, he would generously pull it out for me, pat me on the back as I sat down, and then we would begin our conversation and giggles.  One day though, at the end of class as he was packing up his stuff to leave, he thanked me and said: “You know, everyday I go out of my way to be extremely nice to people, and you would be surprised how rarely their kindness is returned to me.”

Wow.  I felt conflicted.  Should I feel happy that he appreciates me, or sad that he seldom feels appreciated?  It could not take LESS effort for me to be nice to him, and show a little interest in who he is as a person.  Yet the impact it makes on his day seems to be profound.  I think we all have situations like this in our lives.  Someone we wish would give a little more; someone we know deep down deserves a little more from us.  I’m so grateful that I met him, because now I have this mission to put a little extra sweetness into EVERY person I meet.

What if we all did this?  Why don’t we?  It’s sooo easy!  For the rest of the day, I invite every person who actually took the time to read this to live consciously, and as you dance through your day, notice people you wouldn’t normally notice… And then take it one step further and actually acknowledge them.  SHOW them that you see them, and that you are happy that it is so!

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne

Who Am I Being?

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A realization that has made all of the difference in my life:

Stop analyzing the words and actions of the person you feel hurt by.  Instead, choose to look at yourself.  You are not a victim.  Do not ask why this is happening to you.  Do not ask why this person is doing this to you.  Instead, have the courage to ask yourself:

WHO AM I BEING that someone would believe they have permission to behave like this in my life?  And then, forgive yourself for contributing to the creation of an environment where that person felt welcomed to treat you in any way other than wonderful, and change it.  The only thing scarier than change is never changing.

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne

The Power of Words

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I’ve always disliked the saying “actions speak louder than words.”  Maybe because I am a writer I am bias to this quote.  But I actually think it’s BS and a cop out for people who only understand the physical realm.  I completely recognize the impact that actions have, I just don’t agree that one is necessarily better than the other.  I actually feel it takes more courage to sit someone down face to face and TELL them you don’t want to be with them than it does to sneak off and have an affair.  I feel it takes immensely more fearlessness of character to look someone in their eyes and TELL them you are in love with them than it does to just act like you are by spending time or money on them.  I believe that actions are from the body, something temporary to us, while words are from the soul, something unbounded.  Words have POWER.  They are the only thing we truly own.  They are the poems of our soul, the tales of our spirit.  So today, and everyday, choose your words consciously, for they DO speak incredibly loudly.

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne

Feel the Hurt

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What someone says to you when you’re in their good graces means very little.  Compliments feel good, they just do.  But how do they treat you in the heat of an argument?  When they’re so upset you can feel the fire in their body and see the emotion in their eyes?  Those words… The ones that they say to you when you didn’t meet an expectation of theirs… Feel them.  Those are the ones you need to absorb.  Are they constructive?  Do they inspire you?  Are they said with an honest interest to help you grow?  Or are they destructive?  Do they tear fiercely at your self worth?  Are they meant to make you ache?  No matter how bright you shine, you will at some point walk through darkness, no one exempt.  But a choice you do get to make is which voices whisper in your ear beside you in those moments of blackness.  So choose people with voices that inspire even in the midst of emptiness.  Choose people with touches that feel safe even in a fit of anger.  Choose people who see the best in you, even when you’re not being your best you.

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne

LIGHT

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LIGHT is my absolute favorite word.  Understanding the different meanings of this word has taught me so many lessons and brought me so much clarity about who I am and about the life that I want to create for myself.  Here are the two most important lessons I have learned from taking off my blinders and living in the LIGHT:

  • Firstly, travel LIGHT on this journey of life.  What’s good for your soul will give you wings; it will take you higher.  What’s toxic to your spirit will weigh you down, poison you, and stunt your growth.  Let go of any heavy baggage… it will exhaust you carrying all of that weight around and therefore you won’t travel very far… certainly not far enough to accomplish your dreams.  It’s simple, people who are meant to travel your highest path with you are easy to travel with!  They hold themselves up and walk beside you.  They don’t ask you to carry them and all of their baggage, holding you back.  The LIGHTER you travel, the higher you’ll go.  And that choice is always yours.
  • Secondly, be a LIGHT in this Universe!  Shine shine shine.  No one again will ever exist that can radiate the same LIGHT that you can.  People are drawn to the LIGHT.  I promise that those who serve the highest purpose in your life want to be around you as you shine.  Those who do not have your best interest in mind are jealous of your LIGHT, and it’s probably because they haven’t yet looked inside themselves to find their own.  And that’s okay, that’s their adventure to embark on.  But whatever you do, please never… ever… dim your LIGHT because it is shining in someone else’s eyes.  Do not make yourself smaller to stroke somebody else’s tiny dark ego.  Everyone has their own LIGHT.  Selfish is someone who drains you of yours when they have their own just sitting inside of them, waiting to be set free.  Faithless are you to allow someone to do this.  Your LIGHT will guide you, always.  This is why it’s so important.  What looks scary and unfamiliar in the dark may actually be beautiful and glorious in the LIGHT.

So turn it on.  Turn your LIGHT on!  It will guide you, it will inspire others to connect with theirs, and it will brighten the world.

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne

Breaking the Rules of Spirituality

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Being a spiritual person does not mean you can’t set boundaries, be sexy, enjoy material things, be silly, get angry, curse, cry your eyes out, have a glass of wine, stay out all night with your friends, lose yourself for a little while, or experience any other crazy human emotion.  You are growing, learning, blooming, evolving, working to become the highest version of yourself everyday.  So be nice to yourself!  Forgive yourself!  Let go of any and all guilt.  We are spiritual beings having a human experience, which certainly means that we are allowed to experience all of those “human” things.  Just follow your heart, listen to your intuition, and trust in your journey.  Stay grounded… you have to be rooted down to Rise up.  The Divine loves us exactly the way we are, and only wishes that we would do the same for ourselves and others.  Now go do something that makes you SMILE!

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu!

Cheyenne